What does it mean when a woman dreams about you sexually

01/9Wet dreams and women

Wet dreams and women: Wet dreams, that’s a word, or precisely a phenomenon, that we almost unconsciously associate to men. News flash: women also have wet dreams! Getting up all pumped and wet down there while sleeping isn’t uncommon among ladies. Here’s all you need to know about wet dreams in women.

02/9What is a wet dream?

What is a wet dream?: Wet dream is referred to as nocturnal emission, with nocturnal relating to night and emission relating to sexual discharge. It refers to a state of arousal and subsequent ejaculation in men. They may wake up to a hard penis that has just ejaculated. For women, it refers to sexual arousal during sleep that leads to vaginal wetness and awaking to experience an orgasm. However, some women sleep through their climax. The ones who have orgasms while sleeping are not able to say with certainty if they had orgasm during their sleep or not but this is perfectly normal.

03/9Sexual arousal happens during REM sleep

Sexual arousal happens during REM sleep: During the REM stage in sleep, the blood flow in the pelvic region gets boosted. This leads to erection in men and vaginal wetting in women. The arousal in women is as much as when they watch erotic films or masturbate. A lot of times, women are brought awake to find themselves sexually aroused or having had/still having a sexual orgasm.

04/9Women wet dreams are difficult to study

Women wet dreams are difficult to study: The research on wet dreams in women has been difficult to conduct because unlike men, women do not have any outward expression of arousal. Men have an ejaculatory evidence, however, women’s organs are on the inside, making it difficult to study their wet dreams.

05/985% women have had sleep orgasm by the age of 21!

85% women have had sleep orgasm by the age of 21!: A study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that about 85 per cent of women have had sleep orgasms by the age of 21. However, wet dreams were not limited to the age of puberty. This study was based on women who woke up with or during an orgasm.

06/9How do women sleep orgasm?

How do women sleep orgasm?: Sex researcher Alfred Kinsey defined a female nocturnal orgasm as getting sexually aroused during sleep that wakes the woman up to experience the orgasm.

07/9The frequency of wet dreams in women

The frequency of wet dreams in women: Women are known to have fewer wet dreams than men. According to studies, those who reported having wet dreams, had them several times in a year. However, some say that women experience them more often and sometimes, even several times in one night. The difficulty to study and lack of research on the subject has made it difficult to ascertain the exact frequency.

08/9Wet dreams most likely come during a sex dream

Wet dreams most likely come during a sex dream: Well, most think it’s a given; however, it isn’t. Wet dreams may or may not be sex dreams. But most of them are related to sex dreams. Now, when you have a sex dream, it is only natural for you to feel aroused. However, it can be the other way around too. Because during a wet dream, the blood flow to your pelvic region is boosted, you may get aroused and hence, a sex dream.

09/9Wet dreams mean that your body is healthy and awesome

Wet dreams mean that your body is healthy and awesome: There is nothing to be guilty of in wet dreams. They just indicate that your body’s functions are working normally. Call them a gift from the god of slumber. (All images from Shutterstock)

Dreams have long been the center of psychological study and fascination. Dreams can be soothing, comforting, frightening, or confusing. They can also affect your sleep.

We spend an average of two hours a night dreaming but very rarely remember the dreams that we have. While most dreams occur during the rapid eye movement (REM) sleep stage, they can occur during any stage of the sleep cycle.

While adults dream fairly frequently, not everyone experiences sex dreams. Scienctific research stops short of exploring specific sex dreams, but many therapists and psychologists have their own theories about the meaning of sex dreams.

Why Do I Have Sex Dreams?

Although the neurological aspects of dreams are fairly well-researched, less research has been conducted to explore the content and meaning of various types of dreams. That said, there are many theories about the role dreams play in the human psyche. Some theorists believe that dreams allow us to act out potential scenarios or help our brain map and store memories. Other researchers suggest that dreams are a way to cope with traumatic or stressful events.

Are Sex Dreams Normal?

Sex dreams are considered normal. They are also quite common. More than 70% of people report experiencing a sex dream at least once in their life. Even if the content of the dream is unnerving — for example, a dream of sleeping with your boss or cheating on your partner — it doesn’t necessarily mean that something is wrong. In fact, most people dream of those that they recognize, so it is normal to have dreams about people you interact with frequently.

What Do Sex Dreams Mean?

Unfortunately, there’s limited research on what sex dreams mean. Dream meaning can be difficult to study because dreams are subjective to the person experiencing them, and they are not always easy to remember upon waking.

Psychologists and researchers have theorized about sex dreams since Sigmund Freud in the early 19th century. Freud believed that dreams were the conscious and subconscious parts of the mind organizing themselves during sleep. While there is no clear answers on what sex dreams mean, there are a few common theories.

Common Sex Dreams

Although everyone experiences dreaming differently, there are a few themes that are commonly present in sex dreams.

Sex With an Ex-Partner

It is common for those who are in a relationship to dream about current or former partners. These types of dreams may be part of processing a current relationship or grieving a past one. Single people who are seeking a relationship are less likely to dream of people they have dated.

Sex With a Stranger

Dreaming about sex with a stranger may simply be a sign of a healthy libido and normal sexual arousal. If you or a partner dreams of sleeping with a stranger, it is not necessarily indicative of cheating or a desire to cheat.

Cheating on Your Partner

While dreams that include infidelity may not be a direct reflection of your waking life, they could correspond to feelings of jealousy or a lack of intimacy in your current relationship. It may be helpful to discuss potential concerns with your partner.

Sex With an Authority Figure

Whether you dream of your professor or your boss, a sex dream about a person in authority over you may indicate that you are seeking approval from someone in charge.

Understanding Your Dreams

Analyzing your dreams can offer insight into your everyday life. Journaling about your dreams may help you recognize patterns and process different emotions.

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What does it mean when you sexually dream of someone?

The bottom line Sex dreams are a normal part of life. Generally, these dreams are your subconscious working through the last few days. If the dreams are disturbing to you, and they seem to be happening often, you may want to see a mental health professional to help you unpack what's going on.